Question: I keep getting a lot of anxiety because my aunt’s funeral is coming up.
Our Advice: Hey this is Emma. Confronting the death of a family member or friend is never easy. A funeral can be intimidating to anyone, no matter their age. Having someone with you for support is very important. Sometimes, we shouldn’t deal with anxiety on our own. Try talking to someone that can help you and comfort you, most likely an adult who has had some experience with death. If you can’t find someone to talk to and comfort you, here are a few tricks to help you with overcoming your anxiety. One method is to take deep breaths. Sit up straight and put your feet on the floor. Focus on your feet and take deep breaths in and out. Another method is to have something to fidget with. Either a necklace, bracelet, pop it, or anything you can hold in your hands. Or to think of happy memories. Here’s a website you can visit for extra help: https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/coping-grief.html
Use a strategy that works best for you.
Question :
I feel like I’m drifting away from some of my friends. I don’t know why, but I can feel it. Like every time we’re having a happy time together, I feel like these happy memories will end soon. But I don’t want them to. I used to care for them so much; I would do anything for them. They made me smile and laugh and forget about all of my problems. I still care for them, but not in the same way I used to. Like the more I hang out with them, the more and more I can feel myself drifting away. I don’t know what it is. I don’t know if I find them annoying or needy… I mean, I’ve been known to drop things. Changing things from one thing to another, but I never thought I would be the same way with my friends. I’ve never experienced such a thing before because I never had a good time making actual friends. So what should I do? Should I distance myself for a while so I can save our friendship? Or let them go?
Our Advice: Hey this is Emily. My advice is to ask them if they feel the same way. But handle the conversation with the utmost delicacy because if you seem mean, they may get mad at you. If they do not feel the same way, give them a little more time and try to salvage the friendship. But if they do feel the same way and do not know how to save the friendship, give each other space; take a break.. It will hurt, but you have to consider your feelings and decide what is best for you in the long run because, in the long run, it may hurt you more if you try to save something that can’t be saved. Not all friendships are meant to last forever. Also, remember that you are maturing and growing, and sometimes you also grow apart from your friends, and that is okay. There will be other opportunities to make new friends and new memories while holding onto the memories of past friendships.
Question: :Theres no sports clubs; like no soccer after school to play soccer for an example
Our Advice: Hi, this is Emma. Even though there’s no sports club, there are sports after school. There’s volleyball and basketball. I’m pretty sure you can still try out. Just go to the Gym after school. There’s also the Kearny soccer team. They may be letting people join, but I’m not really sure. And if you don’t want to be on teams or stay after school. You can just grab a couple friends and just play at one of your houses. Like street hockey, baseball, basketball, volleyball, soccer, etc.
Question: I have a test soon and I haven´t studied for it! What should I do??????
Our Advice: Heyyy this is Emma. I´ve actually experienced this myself. The tactics I´ve used is when I´m walking I pull out whatever I´m using too study, I would just practice and memorize it walking to school. Or if you´re getting driven I would still use that same tactic. And if you´re with a friend, make them test you after you memorize whatever your studying. And how you have a time period from 8:10-8:20 to get to class. Try and get to your class early so you can review your notes. Or just try and go to help period.
